Wes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today we move into the second part of the book.

"Regardless of what we think we are teaching, we teach what we are."

Discussed:
-everything going on inside me is weird and alien to the rest of the world
-we have this natural desire to be seen, heard, understood
-what would happen if we extended the courtesy we have for adults to children
-Understanding the need or the fear behind scolding?
-When we convey love, appreciation, acceptance, respect and empathy
we make the child visible
-When we convey Indifference, ridicule, condemnation and scorn
drive child into "lonely underground of invisibility"
-Inappropriate Praise
-evaluative praise vs appreciative praise
-state the facts and leave the evaluation to the child
-Don't create "approval addicts"
-A child needs sanity for healthy development
-parents who can acknowledge that they make mistakes
-embed values into family life, don't just preach them

THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM
1. The Practice of Living Consciously
2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance
3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility
4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness
5. The Practice of Living Purposefully
6. The Practice of Personal Integrity

Bumper Music:
The Who - "When I Was A Boy"
Weezer - "In the Garage"

Look Closer:
Complete Liberty Podcast
http://completeliberty.com/

NathanielBranden.com
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/

An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication
http://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdf

Happiness Counseling Resource Page
http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (pdf)
http://experiencelife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/70-the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem.pdf